There’s a lot we can learn from losses – whether they are in the sporting world or in life.
Sometimes we believe that things can get no better. Whether it is our new car or a trip to see our favorite team we think that everything is wonderful. We ride around in our car and enjoy the smell of the new seats, the thrill and the experience. Or even when we go to the game we soak up the sights and the sounds.
I imagine when the University of Alabama lost to Clemson in the National Championship game they thought the rug had been pulled out from under them. That new car with the thrill and experience hit a tree. After a season of wins, the final game produced what would be a devastating and disappointing loss. How could anyone possibly deal with it?
Like Alabama, we must learn to deal with the losses in our life. Though our defeats probably won’t be televised they will hurt none the less. I think no matter what level of loss, it all affects us differently. The pain and the depression all take their toll.
I know that whatever came out of Alabama’s loss the players will be stronger in the long run. Maybe in the hours and days after the game they struggled to find a silver lining- something I’m sure we all can relate to. After we experience our own devastation it takes time for us to recover. The amount of time depends on the severity.
I am no expert in loss and I can’t tell you how to get through the struggle of life. I know we all have things to go through because just as Sheryl Crow sang, “no one said it would be easy, but no said it’d be this hard.”
If time heals as they say, it’s only because we forget how much we hurt. We forget how alone we can feel in that hurt. How selfish we feel about our hurt. The idea of sharing our pain sounds easy until we start to open up and then we close down those gates and store those feelings for another day. I only know the things that hurt me when I was younger don’t now – because I don’t remember what or why they hurt. I don’t remember the situations and the feelings. Maybe if I could go back and relive time I would understand. But who would want to go back and relive pain?
Do you think Alabama wants to go back to feel what the end of the National Championship felt like? I don’t know about you but anymore it’s getting harder and harder to remember the good and the bad. Wounds can be so fresh and bring such intensity but yet make us so numb. Only time will tell how long the numbness lasts.